2.14.18

Guardrails Part 4

Healthy Friendships continued...

Friends are an amazing force in our lives. For some of us our greatest memories and triumphs have happened with our friends alongside us.  On the other hand, some of our worst shortcomings and poorest decisions have been made because of the power we give to those we call "friends".

How do we evaluate and determine if we need a guardrail in a particular relationship?  What do we do when realize it is time to make a change for our own personal growth and development as a Christian?

Bottom Line:  Your friends will influence the direction and quality of your life. 

Proverbs 13:20

Proverbs 9:7-8

  1. SINCE OUR DISCUSSION LAST WEEK, HAVE YOU TRIED TO SET UP ANY PERSONAL GUARDRAILS IN YOUR LIFE?  IF SO, WHAT ARE THEY AND HOW HAS IT GONE TRYING TO KEEP THEM?
  2. WHAT STOOD OUT THE MOST TO YOU IN THE VIDEO TONIGHT? WHY?
  3. IN THE VIDEO JOEY TALKED ABOUT THE CONCEPTS OF COMPASSION AND WISDOM AND HOW COMPASSION WILL NEVER REQUIRE YOU TO MAKE AN UNWISE DECISION ABOUT YOURSELF.  WHY DO WE OFTEN MAKE EXCUSES TO KEEP HANGING OUT WITH THE WRONG PEOPLE? (THIS IS TRICKY CONCEPT, EVEN FOR ADULTS. THERE ISN'T NECESSARILY A FORMULA FOR HOW IT SHOULD LOOK.  THE KEY IS TO GET STUDENTS TO UNDERSTAND THAT TO HAVE COMPASSION AND TO BE AVAILABLE TO FRIENDS WHO NEED YOU IS A GOOD THING, BUT THEY MUST BE CAREFUL WHO THEY ALLOW TO INFLUENCE THEM.  THIS IS A TENSION THAT WILL NEVER GO AWAY, AND THEY WILL SPEND THEIR WHOLE LIVES TRYING TO MANAGE IT. 
  4. "IF YOU HAVE FRIENDS WHO DO NOT TAKE CARE OF THEIR REPUTATION , THEY WILL NOT TAKE CARE OF YOURS."  DO YOU THINK THIS STATEMENT IS TRUE OR FALSE?  WHY IS THIS IMPORTANT WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR FRIENDSHIPS?
  5. IN THE VIDEO A GUITAR WAS USED TO TALK ABOUT THE TENSION BETWEEN BEING INFLUENCED IN A NEGATIVE WAY BY FRIENDS.  HAVE YOU EVER FELT THIS BEFORE? HOW CAN YOU NAVIGATE THIS TENSION IN YOUR LIFE?
  6. IN THE VIDEO WE HEARD "THE ONLY WAY YOU CAN HELP YOUR FRIENDS WHEN THEY FIND THEMSELVES IN DISASTER IS FROM THE OTHER SIDE OF THE GUARDRAIL."  HOW DOES THIS PRINCIPLE APPLY TO YOUR OWN SPIRITUAL HEALTH. (MAY WANT TO TLAK ABOUT HOW OFTEN JESUS WITHDREW TO PRAY, OR HOW HE OFTEN LEFT PEOPLE WHO NEEDED TO BE HEALED SO HE COULD STAY STRONG HIMSELF)
  7. WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU REALIZE THAT YOU NEED TO PUT UP A GUARDRAIL IN A FRIENDSHIP?  HOW DO YOU GO ABOUT THAT CONVERSATION?
  8. AS A GROUP BRAINSTORM SOME GUARDRAILS THAT WILL HELP YOU NAVIGATE YOUR FRIENDSHIPS.
Alex Chatfield